SoCS: costume?

Linda’s prompt for Stream of Consiousness Saturday this week is “costume.”

My Halloween costume this year is woman recovering from brain surgery.

Okay, not really a costume, just reality.

From the front, I actually look pretty normal, other than tired.

My long, silver hair covers up my incision and the 1″x3″ strip of hair shaved off the back of my head.

I only look scary if you see the five-day old incision. I will post a picture at the very end of the post, so don’t scroll all the way down if that sort of thing is upsetting to you.

The surgery was to correct a Chiari malformation, which is when the brain tonsils slip down into the top of the spinal column and disrupt the flow of cerebrospinal fluid. When I manage to get a proper post done about it, I’ll come back and link it here.

I must say that Dr. Petra Klinge of Brown University Health in Providence, RI and her whole team were amazing in my care. I was only in the hospital for two nights and am now resting at an Airbnb in Providence until I can have my post-op visit on 11/6. Spouse B is taking very good care of me!

surgery day

Sometimes, when people want to belittle someone’s accomplishments, they say, “Well, it’s not brain surgery.”

Today, I am actually having brain surgery for Chiari malformation. It only involves the brain tonsils, though, and cutting off a bit of the skull to make room for the tonsils to have a place to be that is not pushing down into the spinal column. They will put in a patch in the dura, the membrane around the brain, to make room.

The photo is of a stuffed and smily brain that daughter T gave me. It is very cute!

I’ve scheduled this to post and am not sure when I will post next. Rest assured, though, that my neurosurgeon specializes in this type of surgery so I am in the best possible hands.

Update on Oct. 29: I was only in the hospital for two nights and am now resting and recuperating at our AirBnB. My follow-up is on Nov. 6 and then home on the 6th or 7th depending on my tolerance for long car rides. Thanks, Everyone, for thinking of me at this time.

One-Liner Wednesday: birthday treat!

For my recent birthday, spouse B made pumpkin whoopie pies with cream cheese filling, which were very yummy!

Join us for Linda’s One-Liner Wednesdays! Find out more here: https://lindaghill.com/2026/10/07/one-liner-wednesday-i-have-a-spider-in-my-kitchen-part-2/

SoCS: baldness

When I was a child, my dad was bald. I didn’t think anything of it. It was just Dad – or as his first grandchild named him, Paco, which is how he is known here at Top of JC’s Mind.

Tucked in a corner of the large mirror over the dresser in my parents’ room was a card that read, “God made just so many perfect heads. The rest He covered with hair.”

When I was in my thirties, a friend was being treated for breast cancer. We were speaking on the phone one day when she told me that so much of her hair had fallen out that her husband was going to shave the remaining strands off later in the day.

I told her about my dad’s card and she laughed about revealing her perfect or maybe not-so-perfect head.

Later that week, she posted a photo of herself, bald with temporary tattoos of butterflies scattered across her scalp.

There was also a saying, “Bald is beautiful.”

She certainly was.
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The prompt for Stream of Concsiousness Saturday this week is “bald, balled, bawled.” Join us! Find out more here: https://lindaghill.com/2026/08/14/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-august-15-2026/

SoCS: travel

When B retired, we had planned to travel more.

More trips to London to see the UK branch of the family.

More mid-week getaways to the Finger Lakes or New England, avoiding the busier weekends and high seasons, now that B didn’t have to work Monday through Friday. Visits to friends and relatives.

We have been doing more travelling, but not in the way we had anticipated.

Instead, we have been doing a lot of medical travelling. A couple of trips to NYC to see the interventional radiologist and do some specialized testing. A trip to Providence, RI at the end of last month to meet with a specialized neurosurgeon. We will return there this fall for surgery. I might need to find an out-of-town nephrologist…

We are hoping that, by next spring, I may be recovered enough to travel for fun again.

It will give me something to dream about as I’m recovering…
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Linda’s prompt for Stream of Concsiousness Saturday this week is “travel.” Join us! Find out more here: https://lindaghill.com/2026/08/07/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-august-8-2026/

One-Liner Wednesday: BCAC America 250 reading tomorrow!

Binghamton NY area folks are invited to an event celebrating the Broome County Arts Council’s America 250 project tomorrow, July 16, at 6:30 PM, in which I will be participating.

This friendly invitation is part of Linda’s One-Liner Wednesdays series. Join us! Find out more here: https://lindaghill.com/2026/07/15/one-liner-wednesday-hey-dilly-dilly/

BCAC America 250 Project opening

Folks in the Binghamton, New York area can visit a special exhibition at the Broome County Arts Council, beginning today, July 3rd, and continuing throughout the month of July.

The official opening is tonight from 6-9 PM for First Friday. There will be visual and literary arts on display around the theme of our personal American heritage.

I am happy to announce that my poem, “Giovanni”, about my Italian-speaking, immigrant grandfather will be part of the exhibition.

On Thursday, July 16th at 6:30 PM, there will be a reading event in conjunction with the exhibition which will include the authors presenting their poems and personal recollections.

Please, join us, if you are able!

SoCS: houseguests

It’s fairly unusual for use to have houseguests but we did this week.

B’s brother and spouse stayed with us overnight as they headed to a family vacation in Maine.

Now, it looks like we may have guests again in a couple of weeks when B’s college roommate heads through on the way to a vacation spot with his spouse.

Sometimes, it’s handy to be located near the intersection of three major interstate routes!
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Linda’s prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday this week is “guest.” Join us! Find out more here: https://lindaghill.com/2026/06/12/the-friday-reminder-and-prompt-for-socs-june-13-2026/

on being a zebra (unicorn)

May is EDS & HSD Awareness Month. EDS stands for Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and HSD for Hypermobility Spectrum Disorder. They are a group of inherited connective tissue disorders that remain under-diagnosed and under-treated. Case in point: I was diagnosed with hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (hEDS) in January at the age of 65, making sense of decades-worth of unexplained symptoms.

The Ehlers-Danlos Society uses the zebra as a symbol of the EDS/HSD community because there is a saying among the medical community that “when you hear hoofbeats, think horses, not zebras” but, sometimes, there really are zebras. Zebras also each have their unique stripe pattern, in the same way that people with EDS/HSD have their own unique presentation, depending on how their collagen and connective tissue is impacted across different body systems at that particular time in their life. The medical system in the United States and in many other countries tends to divvy medical care to specialists who only look at one body system but connective tissue disorders are easier to recognize if one takes a more integrative approach.

And a fun zebra fact: A group of zebras is called a dazzle, which leads to the Ehlers-Danlos Society saying, “Together, we dazzle!”

As I’ve continued to research hEDS, I’ve been engaging in personal forensic diagnostics. So many things I have experienced in my life make sense now that I know of my genetic inheritence of hEDS. For example, I developed tendon problems in my elbow as a young teen which impacted my abilities as a pianist and organist. When I eventually had to resort to surgery in my thirties, the outcome wasn’t as expected and I had to give up playing. I now understand that this was due to my hEDS inherited collagen defects.

My IBS, IC, endometriosis, vulvodynia, pre-term labor, allergies, mast cell activation disorder, cervical instability, near-sightedness, depression/anxiety, cerebellar ectopia, sleep apnea, early gall bladder disease, hiatal hernia, acid reflux, chronic fatigue, diverticulosis, chronic kidney disease, sensitive skin, joints that bend more than expected, and more all have a connective tissue component and are more likely in people with EDS/HSD.

Daughter T gave me the zebra unicorn pin as a gift. While the zebra is the symbol of EDS/HSD, adding the unicorn element helps to play up the uniqueness of each individual.

And it’s super cute!

The point is that another person with hEDS could exhibit a totally different set of symptoms from mine or we could share some symptoms and not others. It just depends on which connective tissues are compromised and how much at that particular time. Other factors are involved, too, like age, activity level, hormone and endocrine function, etc. It adds to the zebra-unicorn element and takes a thoughtful and informed practitioner to pick up on the possibility of an underlying connective disorder behind all the symptoms of different body parts.

In December, there will be an update to the EDS/HSD diagnostic guidelines. My hope is that the medical community will use these and the best practices guidelines that will follow in spring 2027 to finally look more comprehensively at their patients and diagnose and help them at much younger ages than currently.

Some people are also under the mistaken impression that it doesn’t do any good to give a diagnosis when you can’t cure the disorder. While it’s true that we can’t current treat the genetic cause, there are treatments to help alleviate many of the symptoms. It’s also imperative for practitioners to know the EDS/HSD status for anyone who is contemplating surgery. Surgeons need to know about connective tissue differences so that they can compensate for that during the procedure and the recovery protocols or, perhaps, decide that surgery is not appropriate. Many EDS/HSD patients also need long-term physical therapy to help them function; it makes a huge difference if physical therapists are knowledgeable about connective tissue disorders so that they help rather than hurt.

As I continue my journey with hEDS, I will keep you posted here at Top of JC’s Mind. If we are super-lucky and we find effective treatment for my brain fog and fatigue, I may even post more regularly.

I will, though, always remain my unique, zebra-unicorn self.

Mother’s or Mothers’ Day

Today is celebrated as Mother’s Day in the United States. In other years, I’ve shared about the older, Mothers’ Day begun by Julia Ward Howe in the years following the American Civil War.

This year, I’m sharing historian Heather Cox Richardson’s Substack on Howe’s views and actions.

Today, I’m wishing peace and equal rights to all mothers and all people everywhere.